He loves you… he loves you not. But how can you really know what he is thinking, when all you have is a few warm words on your cold media device? Here are five tips to get you started
Enthusiasm
A guy who likes a girl (and I mean like-like, and not just sorta-like) use enthusiastic words to express satisfaction in their relationship. Such words may include, “happy,” “love,” “great,” “awesome,” and “wow.” Any couple who use these words is more likely to be together after six months of dating. If your guy uses strong words in his e-mails, he probably has strong feelings for you to boot.
Ownership
Any guy who presents a lot of personal ownership in his text messages, is probably more satisfied with the woman he is responding to. This is identified by the prolific use of the word “I.” When someone shares a piece of information about themselves, they are expressing comfort and security in that relationship. They say that women who use the word “I” in their text messages are happiest in their relationships. Men who receive messages heavily layered in the word “I,” are also happier, suggesting that it is just as desirable to be shared with, as it is to share.
Positive-Negation
While positive words are good, such as “happy” and “nice”, the use of a negation before them is an indication that a relationship could be headed down a bad turn. Studies suggest that men who negate a happy sentence (i.e. I am NOT happy today) are ultimately not very enthusiastic about the person they are texting/messaging. However, negative words, themselves, do not seem to have the same antagonistic outlook. In other words, it is better to receive “I’m angry,” than “I’m not happy.” This is because the first statement is describing a general mood, while the second is expressing a non-specific complaint, almost as if he is suggesting you could be at fault for his bad mood.
Sarcasm
Sarcasm is text messages can be another hidden indicator of a relationship that is headed for trouble. This is because it expresses a certain amount of disrespect and disinterest. When a man says, “You want to get dinner, huh?” he is throwing the invitation back at you in a slightly sarcastic tone. Research suggests that most relationships that exhibit signs of sarcasm in their IM/text messages will not survive much past six-month mark.
Copycat
There is a lot of research pointing to the fact that couples who like each other, also tend to mimic each other. Happy couples imitate body language, favorite catch phrases, and they even pick up on each other’s writing style. If you are a romantic poet, and like to send your guy rhyming prose, you might be surprised to find him copying your style. This is not laziness on his part, but rather a form of flattery. By that same token, if a couple has a similar way of communicating, and one partner suddenly begins to develop his own style apart from their original, this could be an indication that the romantic portion of the relationship is ending.
While you may not always be able to rely on these five tips to tell you what your guy is thinking. They will likely offer a good hint as to the possibility of either a smooth or rocky road ahead.